opening a can of worms...

[kuangning]

.. you all know by now that I do not advocate spanking. My three get along just fine without it when we live on our own. But I know there are those of you who do... so, a few questions.

I know that there are a couple of questions that could have been phrased differently, now that I look at it, but. Answer with an average age range for your children if they're close in ages: if there's a span of five years or more, answer for one of them.

[Poll #62482]

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[ly2me.livejournal.com]

Not to be offensive, but that's complete hogwash. :) For the simple reason a child has much more environmental input than just from the parent.

I certainly know -I- did things my parents would never have dreamed of, and I didn't do them out of any stimuli provided by my parents.

[kaolinfire.livejournal.com]

Actually, I did live (and it wasn't so difficult) a rather sheltered life, in that I was raised only by my parents. I didn't go to friends' houses, for the most part -- they came over to mine; at least until I was rather formed as an individual. And I seriously doubt there was much I could do that my parents would never have dreamed of; I'm sure there's a fair amount that they have done that *I* would never have dreamed of. Admittedly, I went to a public school as well, and there's much brainwashing and whatnot going on there, but with the proper spin on things from home, one survives... :)

so go hogwash yourself. ;)

[ly2me.livejournal.com]

So you had input from school and friends, probably TV to some extent, and I'm sure there were others. And somehow you were lucky enough to be one of those who listened carefully to what your parents advised and didn't get into mischief. Not all children put up with being sheltered. I didn't. Momma tried.

My point is that to say that all a parent has to do is do everything right and no kid will 'get to the point of needing a spanking' is just wrong. See my post below... all kids are different. That's like saying that all the inmates must have had bad parents. It just doesn't work that way. :)

[kaolinfire.livejournal.com]

read your post below.

umm.

I think we'll just need to agree to disagree here. You can do as you will with your own, and maybe I'll just get lucky with mine.

Not all parents are alike, not all children are alike, but I believe that it is possible get a person to start thinking about what they're doing and why they're doing it... and why you'd rather they didn't, and how that fits in the whole scheme of life: perspective. I'll admit that it could just be a pipe dream, but it's my pipe dream and I'm sticking to it. :)

I had a pretty easy life.