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May. 1st, 2002 07:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kuangningDark is the night
I can weather the storm
Never say die
I've been down this road before
I'll never quit
I'll never lay down
See I promised myself that
I never would let me down
So I'll never give up
Never give in
Never let a ray of doubt slip in
And if I fall
I'll never fail
I'll just get up and try again
Never lose hope
Never lose faith
There's much too much at stake
Upon myself I must depend
I'm not looking for place or show
I'm gonna win
I'm asking for the world. I'm saying that this is what I want, this I have to have, this I'm not willing to live without. There is no-one in the world I cannot live without... living alone can be infinitely preferable to living with someone wrong.
* Be honest. be straight up with me. I can handle that a hell of a lot better than never knowing where I stand.
* I'm a caring person. I'll do my best to give what's needed. Don't take advantage of that. Don't take it for granted. And keep in mind that I can't give what you need if I don't know what that is.
* I am not a happy-go-lucky person. If you're going to deal with me, expect some rough weather sometimes. It does not mean I hate you or don't care if I get unhappy. And forcing me to suppress that side of me will backfire.
* I'm not going to cower because you get unhappy. If you expect abject submission, you'll be disappointed. If I push, push back. I won't mind. But if you mind me pushing back, if you can't deal with anything but softness and sunshine, then you may wanna rethink dealing with me.
* I apologize when I make a mistake. I expect the same. I try to be fair - I expect fairness in return.
* Communicate. Plain and simple. I won't expect you to read my mind, and if I realise that I'm expecting something you can't know I expect, then I'll fix that as I can. You need to do the same - or you have no grounds for pointing out that I'm not meeting your expectations.
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i, in a recent post, pointed out that "a gift is something given without expectations." and "friendship is a gift." But that's an unrealistic ideal. The fact is, we do harbour expectations of other people, in whatever relationship they stand to us. The problem isn't having expectations. It's having unconveyed expectations. We tend to find people who fulfill our expectations, and shun people who don't, and what happens is, no-one can meet all our expectations all the time, especially if we don't communicate them - and then we feel hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. Everything else has to be built on that. Trust comes slowly, especially after the first time it's broken. If you can't talk to me, nothing else will ever be possible. Period. I'm not settling for anything else.
I can weather the storm
Never say die
I've been down this road before
I'll never quit
I'll never lay down
See I promised myself that
I never would let me down
So I'll never give up
Never give in
Never let a ray of doubt slip in
And if I fall
I'll never fail
I'll just get up and try again
Never lose hope
Never lose faith
There's much too much at stake
Upon myself I must depend
I'm not looking for place or show
I'm gonna win
I'm asking for the world. I'm saying that this is what I want, this I have to have, this I'm not willing to live without. There is no-one in the world I cannot live without... living alone can be infinitely preferable to living with someone wrong.
* Be honest. be straight up with me. I can handle that a hell of a lot better than never knowing where I stand.
* I'm a caring person. I'll do my best to give what's needed. Don't take advantage of that. Don't take it for granted. And keep in mind that I can't give what you need if I don't know what that is.
* I am not a happy-go-lucky person. If you're going to deal with me, expect some rough weather sometimes. It does not mean I hate you or don't care if I get unhappy. And forcing me to suppress that side of me will backfire.
* I'm not going to cower because you get unhappy. If you expect abject submission, you'll be disappointed. If I push, push back. I won't mind. But if you mind me pushing back, if you can't deal with anything but softness and sunshine, then you may wanna rethink dealing with me.
* I apologize when I make a mistake. I expect the same. I try to be fair - I expect fairness in return.
* Communicate. Plain and simple. I won't expect you to read my mind, and if I realise that I'm expecting something you can't know I expect, then I'll fix that as I can. You need to do the same - or you have no grounds for pointing out that I'm not meeting your expectations.
i, in a recent post, pointed out that "a gift is something given without expectations." and "friendship is a gift." But that's an unrealistic ideal. The fact is, we do harbour expectations of other people, in whatever relationship they stand to us. The problem isn't having expectations. It's having unconveyed expectations. We tend to find people who fulfill our expectations, and shun people who don't, and what happens is, no-one can meet all our expectations all the time, especially if we don't communicate them - and then we feel hurt, angry, disappointed, etc. Everything else has to be built on that. Trust comes slowly, especially after the first time it's broken. If you can't talk to me, nothing else will ever be possible. Period. I'm not settling for anything else.