anoisblue's Shower Meme.

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eleanor asks:

If you could live anywhere, assuming that neither the kids or money are secure and aren't an issue, where would it be?

Wow... I have to pick one place?

I have a pet fantasy of buying a few hundred acres in the Canadian wilderness and carving out a small community, peopled with my core group. I would work downstairs in my home where the doors would almost never be shut and watch my children run through with the children of my friends.

If you could have one superpower, what would it be?

Time travel, please. There are so many things I feel like I've missed that will never come again. I want to see my littlest's first haircut and my daughter read her first word.

Again, assuming no barriers or restrictions, what would be the best job in the world and why?

I think I already have the best job in the world, though I seem to be on extended leave. I can't wait to get back to the work of being Mommy. Why? Because I can't think of a nicer way to touch the future.

What's the hardest part about being a parent?

That's an unfair question considering my circumstances. And really, I think that's a question every parent is going to answer differently. While they were home, disciplining them was the toughest thing. It took constant reminders that I was a mother, not just a babysitter, and there was no Mommy coming to collect them at the end of the shift. If I wanted kids I could live with, I had to set rules and enforce them.

Now that they're gone, of course, that's the hardest part.

What does spirituality mean to you?

It means the things I do to feel a part of the life going on around me, and the feeling of being in touch, plugged into that energy. It's trusting that there is a purpose, a Plan and a Planner, guiding my life, though I may not know what they are yet. It's knowing that I don't really need to know, I don't have to understand. Sometimes it's taking a long bath with the right music. Sometimes it's sitting down to a blinking cursor in an empty text field and doing my best to make the words carry all the meaning I intended them to have. Always, always, always, it's doing my level best to live my life in such a way that my friends could defend me if they had to -- but so that they never have to.

I will, of course, continue the meme. If you'd like to be interviewed, leave me a comment saying so. :)

Comments

[eleanor.livejournal.com]

Those were wonderful answers, and I didn't mean for the parenting question to be unfair. I meant it in the full knowledge that you are n fact and excellent parent and will in fact have the kids back with you.

Again, I'm sorry if it was unfair.

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Heh. Perhaps that was a wrong choice of words. I just meant that my answer was necessarily going to be something most parents (thankfully) can't relate to, something that immediately singles me out, if that makes sense.

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[eleanor.livejournal.com]

But that gives other parents, who might sometimes wonder what they're doing, something more to think about.

[coyotegoth.livejournal.com]

So, fiddle the question a bit- what's the toughest day-to-day aspect of parenting (assuming no unusual circumstances)?

[fifthconundrum.livejournal.com]

I would be tremendously honored to have you interview me. I can hardly wait to see what questions you come up with.

yes'm. ;)

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1) Tell me what happens in a day in your perfect life.
2) I've watched you struggling to overcome your programming for awhile now. What's the one thing that's been most helpful to you in doing that, and why?
3) You've got three questions to ask of God, and guaranteed responses that aren't "Have faith my child" or something similar. What do you ask, and what do you think He'll answer?
4) Tell me one thing about yourself that you used to dislike and now appreciate.
5) Tell me what happened to make you change your mind.

[lothie.livejournal.com]

Please interview me!

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1) Tell me what's been the biggest positive change in your life over the last year.
2) What's been the biggest negative?
3) Look at your life now as opposed to the one you thought you'd be living when you were this age. Do they match up at all?
4) With that last question in mind, is there anything you would change about your life now, to make it match that possible life?
5)Where do you want to be ten years from now?

[coyotegoth.livejournal.com]

If you'd like to be interviewed, leave me a comment saying so. :)

Please do... and welcome back :)

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1) If the author of your choice were to write your life story, which author would it be? Why?
2) Describe the finished work - sad, romantic, comedic? What's the cover art look like?
3) If you could only accomplish one thing in your lifetime, what would it be?
4) What do you consider your greatest achievement so far?
5) Tell me about the one material thing that has the most value to you.

[coyotegoth.livejournal.com]

1. I think it would Theodore Sturgeon- a love of humanity, an awareness of pain, and a willingness to explore life's more peculiar possibilities.

2. I think the work would be more philosophical in tone; the cover would be a photograph I took of myself in college, at an amusement park called Playland. I was standing in front of a pillar coated with thousands of mirror fragments, like a disco ball; the resulting off-the-cuff shot somehow seems to speak to me of life's limitless possibilities- and, of course, of reflection.

3. Go EVA, and see the Earth hanging before me like a glowing, gravid jewel.

4. Surviving two breakdowns, and keeping my sense of humor and humanity in the process, while also finding the courage to reach again.

5. Sitting on my desk is a small, unremarkable photo of three men- one older, two younger- and two women- one older, one younger. One of the younger men is standing next to the younger woman, holding their baby. The other of the younger men is standing deliberately between the two older people, with an expression that seems to bespeak self-satisfaction, as of a difficult goal achieved. You can't see it, but he's think of what it took to get these four people (along with the younger woman's husand, and their baby) together for this picture, and of how sometimes you can at least catch a glimpse of the past, if not properly reclaim it.

[dormouse-in-tea.livejournal.com]

If you have the time and inclination, I'd like to know what questions you would ask me. ^_^

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1) Tell me about your very earliest memory.
2) Tell me one thing about you that no-one knows but you.
3) What never fails to make you laugh?
4) What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done?
5) Tell me the one lesson that was the hardest to learn for you.

[katster.livejournal.com]

I think I'd be up for being interviewed if you'd like.

-kat

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1) Tell me your favourite childhood memory.
2) What was the one thing that convinced you you really loved that boy? ;)
3) What's the hardest obstacle you've had to overcome in your life so far, and how exactly has it affected your life?
4) How well do you feel you've handled it? If I gave you the chance to go back and do it over, or live without it entirely, would you?
5) Tell me about a dream you set aside, and why.

[agentrayevyn.livejournal.com]

i wanna be interviewed :)

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1) Tell me your single biggest goal in life.
2) Tell me the one life lesson that's most important to you right now.
3) What's your worst habit?
4) Tell me a story no-one's heard from you yet.
5) Define friendship for me.

[zorbathut.livejournal.com]

Interview me! ^^

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1) You talk a lot about changing, lately. What won't change? What's basic, bedrock truth for you?
2) Same question as for Abby, above, because it's been so much of an issue for you lately. Define friendship.
3) You've got ten minutes (no cheating) to teach me something simple that can change my life. What's the lesson?
4) What gets you through the tough times?
5) You've got to spend the rest of your life in one room, any size, shape, colour, furnishings you like. What does it look like?

[iq2hi4uok.livejournal.com]

I have a pet fantasy of buying a few hundred acres in the Canadian wilderness and carving out a small community, peopled with my core group.

Mine involves a castle which is probably out of proportion to any which likely exists in real life, because it's big enough for everyone I care about who wants one to have their own wing of it. :)

It's knowing that I don't really need to know, I don't have to understand.
Thank you for reminding me of that. I think I really needed to be.