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Dec. 20th, 2002 06:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kuangning*sighs.*
... who are we to judge people and say which is good or bad or who is right or wrong?
it's not our place, because we are all as confused as everyone else.
grah.
No, it's not our place to say who is good or bad. It is our place, our right and our responsibility, to remove ourselves from the influence of people who display a pattern of behaviour that hurts us, or from people who show, by words or by action, that they do not have our best interest at heart. Good person? Certainly. Good behaviour? Rethink that. I am a little tired of people who use "don't judge me!" as an excuse to remain blind to the consequences of their actions, or to somehow keep close those whose affections they have lost through carelessness, lack of courtesy, or malicious behaviour, with or without the intent to be pointedly and personally hurtful.
Angry? I'm not. There's no hate or ill-will in my heart right now. I wish you happy, I wish you well and fulfilled, and I believe you will find what you're searching for so desperately, one of these days. I believe that you will come to wholeness, and to understanding -- and I hope you know that I will be thrilled for you, when you do.
Until you do, however... well, one of the steps along the way, my darling, is empathy. And compassion, both for yourself and for those around you who are affected by you. Until you come to that step, and show that you're willing to take it, then it's better for some of us to withdraw a little, if only to protect from you the lingering affection and caring for you that you haven't yet managed to strip from us and replace with hurt and bitterness.
Take care, hon. This door isn't locked and barred, but it really is for the best that it be closed right now.
... who are we to judge people and say which is good or bad or who is right or wrong?
it's not our place, because we are all as confused as everyone else.
grah.
No, it's not our place to say who is good or bad. It is our place, our right and our responsibility, to remove ourselves from the influence of people who display a pattern of behaviour that hurts us, or from people who show, by words or by action, that they do not have our best interest at heart. Good person? Certainly. Good behaviour? Rethink that. I am a little tired of people who use "don't judge me!" as an excuse to remain blind to the consequences of their actions, or to somehow keep close those whose affections they have lost through carelessness, lack of courtesy, or malicious behaviour, with or without the intent to be pointedly and personally hurtful.
Angry? I'm not. There's no hate or ill-will in my heart right now. I wish you happy, I wish you well and fulfilled, and I believe you will find what you're searching for so desperately, one of these days. I believe that you will come to wholeness, and to understanding -- and I hope you know that I will be thrilled for you, when you do.
Until you do, however... well, one of the steps along the way, my darling, is empathy. And compassion, both for yourself and for those around you who are affected by you. Until you come to that step, and show that you're willing to take it, then it's better for some of us to withdraw a little, if only to protect from you the lingering affection and caring for you that you haven't yet managed to strip from us and replace with hurt and bitterness.
Take care, hon. This door isn't locked and barred, but it really is for the best that it be closed right now.
